Agony Aunt: Minerva Answers All Your Summer Questions (n°5)

Welcome readers, to the final online edition of Minerva. I feel honoured to have made it through another year of uni and another year of Bath Time (if you have not read me before, do go and have a gander at my advice online). Finally, exams are almost over, summer is almost here, and you’ll soon be able to relax again, whether you’ll be returning to campus in the autumn or not. So, I suppose for some of you this is goodbye; go well and good luck with your future endeavours. To the rest of you, make the most of the summer and I’ll see you in September. Here’s my advice to carry you through… 

I want to go away with my friends for a week this summer, but my partner is being a bit weird and doesn’t want me to go. I don’t want to make them feel uncomfortable, but I also don’t want to miss out on a trip with my mates. What should I do?

At this moment in time, it’s a good idea to stop and think about why they don’t want you to go. What are they worried about? Is this about you or about them? You need to listen to your gut on this one, and if it doesn’t feel right then it’s worth having a conversation with them. It’s neither fair nor healthy for you to be asked to stop seeing your friends in any capacity. Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean that they should be your entire life, and you deserve to go out and see your friends, regardless of the situation with your partner.

I would suggest having a calm conversation with them and asking them why they really don’t want you to go, and then explain that it’s healthy for you to spend time apart and that you still want to go on the trip. If you wanting to have your own experiences upsets them, it might be time to re-evaluate your love life…

I’ve not secured a summer internship, and I’m panicking about not getting a grad scheme because of it. Will this affect my employability?

Look, I know this next piece of advice will go against everything you’ve been told by your teachers, your parents, and various other adults in your life. But you’re young! We’re so lucky to get these gloriously long summer breaks to do whatever we want with our time. Do what you can with it. Getting a job because you think it will make you more employable later down the line is not something to panic about right now. If working unpaid in an office all summer is how you genuinely want to spend your holiday, then that’s great. Equally, if you want to work in your local pub to earn money for the year ahead, or take the entire summer to go travelling, that’s also great. Yours truly plans on working part-time to earn just enough money to do a little bit of travelling (and a lot of partying). It’s your time to use however suits you, so please don’t feel pressured into get your life sorted. There is absolutely no reason to panic just yet, we have the rest of our lives to sit at a desk behind a computer… It might not feel like we have much on our side at the moment, but I promise you, we do have time.

Me and my mates want to go away together but we are skint. What should we do instead?

For starters, if you have student house tenancies this summer, there are always plenty of fun things to do in the area and a lot of students do stay so you can definitely make your own fun around Oldfield. Otherwise, if you or one of your friends has a car, fill it up with food, drink, and warm clothes (not the actual car, that needs to be filled with fuel at a fuel station or charged in advance…) and head to a campsite. There are plenty of sites around the UK within driving distance of Bath (think Wales/Cornwall etc.). They’re incredibly cheap and often near a beach. Wait for a sunny weekend, hop in the car and off you go for a few days in a field under a canvas – get a big group and it can be hilarious. Think beach all day, pints, and BBQs, what more could you need? 

If you do suddenly come into some money and are up for some solo travelling, our horoscopes writer, Celine, has compiled a list of where you should head off to based on your star sign. It’s worth checking out!

Lots of love to you all, and I hope that you have a wonderful summer! 

Until we meet again, 

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